Every woman is different and what works for one may be a total turn off for another, so it’s no wonder men sometimes have a hard time figuring out what they want. I’m not just talking about in bed mind you, I’m talking about the things you can do everyday to keep your lover wanting to pounce on you because you are so incredibly attractive to her even if she has watched you poo before, let’s get that fire going!
Relaxation – I don’t care if you look like Brad Pitt in his Thelma and Louise day’s, if your woman is stressed out then she is not going to be in the mood for your grubby paws is she? So what can you do to help her relax? Run her a bath with something from all those smelly little bottles and bombs you never noticed in the bathroom, maybe light a candle or two and let her soak, offer to wash her back for her and then you can cop a feel if you dare but don’t make it obvious or you’ll just cheapen the act! When she comes out you can offer to help dry her off and maybe a massage? Don’t go into it expecting sex and just concentrate on helping her chill and you might be surprised at what happens.
Funny Smart Guy – Most women will tell you that even more important than looks is that their guy has a great sense of humour. Intelligence is also up there as nobody wants to go to bed with someone who is as dumb as a bag of rocks no matter what they look like. A woman likes to have her brain seduced before her body and the best way to do that is to show her that you are smart and funny. Laughter has been proven to release Serotonin and Dopamine which are the brains very own feel good drugs and that high can easily encourage her to get a little horny.
Be tactile – Be honest, how often do you actually touch your lady without it being the precursor for sex? I want you to try something… For one week just try doing physical things without pushing for more. Sneak up behind her if she is washing up and give her a cuddle before walking away. Stroke her hair while binge watching Netflix. Plant a kiss right on her nose as you pass by. All these little things add up to make her feel loved and when she feels loved, she feels desirable and that can lead to her wanting to return the favour. But to be honest you should be doing this anyway without expecting more.
Random acts of kindness- This one can feel a little seedy if you are doing it for the wrong reasons. Don’t be that guy who puts in the little kindness coins and expects sex to drop out, but do it because you want her to appreciate you and you want to show her you care. Do extra housework, I say extra because you ARE doing half anyway…RIGHT? Offer to take any kids you might have out for a day to give her some ‘me’ time. Service her car tyres air pressure or some other manly thing that her friends will swoon over. Just personal things that remind her what a great guy you are.
Be present – Are you on your phone right now? Is she? After reading this, put it down! The best way to not miss opportunities for intimacy is to actually be in the moment for them. Spend time together without distractions, stay an extra hour in bed just talking to each other and rediscover all the things that made you attracted to each other in the first place. You’ll thank me later!