Are you looking to build up a bit more confidence in the bedroom? Well, here’s the first big tip: turn off the porn. Because watching some horse-cocked stud pump away like a pneumatic drill is the quickest road to shame-town. Besides – and this might come as a bit of a shock – porn isn’t real. And comparing yourself to an unrealistic standard will only aggravate that negative self-talk.
You know the voice we’re talking about. It’s the really annoying one that pipes up at the worst moments, asking stupid questions like “Am I doing it right? Why isn’t she moaning more? And what if she notices my odd-shaped balls?” And here’s another quick tip: nobody – and we mean nobody – cares about the shape of your balls. So stop worrying about them, along with all the other stupid stuff that’s holding you back in the bedroom. Because confidence and the ability to lose yourself in the moment are sexy as fuck. And not every king needs a 12-inch dong dangling between his legs. Real confidence is a state of mind.